You Are Not Alone

"Make absolutely no mistake," Vegh said. "Women can smoke dope, booze it up, throw a fist, wield a knife, use a gun, beat their spouse, and beat their kids. It is a type of violence that is ignored, condoned, and treated as frivolous by a justice system that survives by feeding on the one individual who is easily stereo-typed, lacks public sympathy, does not raise fear of reprisal in politicians, and often does not fight back."

Mary Matalin was right when she wrote in a 1993 Newsweek column: “We are not victims; our daughters are not infants; our sons are not brutes; our men are not monstrous pigs.” If women hate the idea that only men can be strong, we’d better reject the myth that only women can be gentle. If we aspire to leadership, it’s time we take responsibility for our own capacity to abuse and victimize others.

Sheridan Hill writes, "Women have been on a self-righteous soap box for a long time. Men have cowered in the face of feminism and other movements that have been used by those who want to avoid looking at the consequences of their behavior.

Women hit. Women kill. Men are taught not to hit back."

To read more on violence against men click here. It is a brilliant essay called "In the Defense of Abused Men." by Sheridan Hill. 

Men, 

You are not alone. 

Fight for your lives. 

Please. 

I have a personal story about this and I had posted it but I've now chosen to take it down. I don't want this to be motivated by my anger at the injustice personally. I want people, women, to understand that men are human beings and shouldn't be generalized and shoved in a box categorized as 'thug'. They bleed. They cry. If we women demand their respect, we should be respecting them. 

It breaks my heart. 

We should be defending our men. I feel that the abused man is a mere shadow because you hardly hear of it in the media. And I think we have to change that. We must try to change it. 

I appreciate anyone who came by to read this. It means a huge amount. Thank you.